Playing catch-up here. I’ve been on the road and in the air for 47 days taking more notes than photos at these couples’ retreats and Bermuda was a highlight.
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Beyond the pink sand and genuine warmth (everyone says ‘good morning’ to strangers which is in my blood 🇯🇲), this group was amazing to work with - open, vulnerable, thoughtful and kind. And the post-session conversations were a personal highlight.
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On top of it all, I got to paddle board on a clear SUP - an unreal experience in those turquoise waters.😳
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But back to the lessons from happy couples:
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1. Simmer: build excitement and let them know you’re thinking of them without interrupting their day by saving posts and memes into shared folders on IG. Pick categories that excite you from travel to erotica to philosophy and beyond and surprise them with new additions at your leisure. 📁
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2. White board: want to work on an issue, flesh out a problem or come up with solutions? White board your process just like you do at the office. One couple shared their experience of writing down all the things to which they allocate time (kids, work, hobbies, time alone, health, projects, etc.). They colour-coded check marks to indicate where they wanted to invest more time, wrote down some goals & came up with strategies to execute.✔️
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3. Skim: this one is simple. Build physical connection and desire through flirtatious and affectionate touch. Brush your against them, run your hand over their inner thigh or give them a pat on the butt when they’re walking up the stairs. Rather than relegating physical affection to the bedroom, create rituals to weave throughout the day.
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#1&3 credit to: @pvkbr & @michaelwbranco
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Would you simmer, white-board or skim? These little things can go a long way!