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April 21, 2020

Sexuality Superheroes: Casey Carter

This week’s Sexuality Superhero is Casey Carter. Casey is a fetish lifestyle expert, domme and erotic writer. Whether it’s in a classroom, in a sex club, or at an erotic reading, Casey aims to spread her awareness and understanding about sex and relationships to all audiences. Read her feature below!

How did you find yourself working in sexuality?

I was on the verge of separating and getting divorced when I found myself meeting me/Casey for the first time. While she has always been there, I kept her at a distance. Once I embraced and released her, I started expressing myself through erotic writings. On rides to NYC from Stamford, CT, I fell in love with the idea of short stories – something that can be finished in the 50 -60 minute ride into the city or in the roundtrip. After a couple of years of developing characters and releasing my first set of stories, I started Casey@Night on Periscope. It was how I could promote not just my stories, but the stories of other writers. Through constant research and life experience, I began answering questions and educating my viewers and followers. My transparency created a safe space for eager listeners to ask questions, share secrets and live vicariously through me. The deeper I get, the more I want to share. The more I share, the more I want to experience just so I can share more. I love the space I’m in and I love being able to grow with my followers.

What is the best part of your job?

The best part of what I do is the people. I love engaging with my followers/viewers/fans. I’m honored when they trust me with their secrets or seek my opinion regarding the things that mean the most to them. I love it when they tell me they’re inspired to be their best self because of something I’ve done or said.

What is the most challenging part of the job?

Being judged is the most challenging part of what I do. And sometimes those that judge me the most share the same space with me.

What is your most important piece of advice that has the potential to revolutionize relationships?

The most important piece of advice that I could give is to have honest and transparent communication. It’s a simple suggestion and yet it’s one of the hardest things for people to do. We talk to our partner(s) all the time, all day but what I’ve noticed is we aren’t always honest or transparent. We fear rejection therefore we don’t talk about the things we think our partner may object to or shame us for. I realized from my own experience that if I can’t tell my partner my deep dark secrets, then there is something missing, and that missing thing is intimacy. Having the understanding that intimacy isn’t physical and that it is essential to your connection, makes a huge difference in your ability to tell your partner anything and not be afraid of their reaction.

Can you tell us a little more about your Sexual Rainbow and what it can teach us about our sexual behaviour(s)?

When I was researching ideas for my stories, I stumbled on a Netscape article that talked about your favorite color being indicative of who you are sexually. As I explored their explanations for the various colors, I had to disagree. My favorite color couldn’t be farther from who I was sexually. I studied the colors and compared them to people’s behavior, and came to the conclusion that you’re sexuality matched a color and not just a color, but colors depending on the day and or time. The Sexual Rainbow consists of 11 colors from black to white – black being the kinkiest that you can imagine and white being the most sex avoidance. Today I could want to swing from the rafters (red) and tomorrow I want to cuddle all day (orange). Most important is being ok with who you are, wherever you fall on the spectrum – no judgement, no expectations.

What do you want people to know about your work as an erotic writer, domme and fetish model?

Everything I do is based on self-exploration. My stories/characters are drenched with the essence of Casey – my strongest characters, kinkiest, most sensitive – each one is a part of me. I’ve always been a dominant, but I haven’t always embraced it. Once I took hold of being a domme and owned it, I was soooooo in love with myself. There was a time I couldn’t look myself in the eye, but when I decided to own who I am and let Casey roam free, I couldn’t stop looking at her; finding strength in her; admiring her for being confident in a way I hadn’t been before. As a fetish model, I’m able to express MY fetishes as defined by Me and not society or the fetish community based on long-held beliefs. What gets me off is what gets me off and displaying those things to the world with confidence makes me even more bold.

Where can we learn more about you and your work?

Check out Casey’s website here. You can also follow her on Instagram and TikTok.

Casey Carter is an erotic author, on-air personality, and fetish lifestyle expert. Her knowledge and expertise have made her an industry force whose influence has both educated and motivated publishing professionals, entertainment leaders, and the general mainstream. Whether in the classroom, out in the field at various nation-wide events, in the boardroom (or the bedroom), Casey Carter focuses her professional endeavors on the benefits of effective communication, intimacy and sexual awareness. 

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