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December 5, 2018

How To Keep The Flame Burning Over The Holidays

The holiday season can be a stressful time for many couples, so check out Dr. Jess’ tips to help keep your flame burning as your ring in the new year.

Forego Gift-Giving

Good things may come in small packages, but great things come in the form of our most valuable asset…time. The pressure to choose the perfect gift can detract from the cheer of the season, so trade in time at the mall for quality time spent together.

Take turns planning an intimate date and use these ideas as inspiration:

  • Go ice skating hand-in-hand.
  • Hit up the tobogganing hill beneath the stars.
  • Prepare a private brunch for two.
  • Indulge in a spa day.
  • Take a holiday cooking class together.
  • Snuggle up for an evening of spiked hot cocoa and cheesy holiday movies.
  • Go snow tubing!
  • Volunteer at a local soup kitchen or “adopt”’ a child and purchase holiday gifts from their wish list.

“Match” Your Family Time

The holidays usually involve a series of gatherings with friends and family and though these get-togethers can be full of love and laughter, we sometimes neglect our romantic relationships during this busy time of year. To ensure that you have a chance to connect with your lover this year, devise a plan to “match” time spent with family with time spent alone.

For instance, if you spend 3 hours at a family get-together, make a commitment to spend a similar amount of time doing something you enjoy as a couple. Running from party to party and house to house can be exhausting and leave you feeling anything but sexy, so scheduling time for intimacy is of paramount importance. The exchange does not have to be minute for minute, but any effort to set time aside for yourselves will be well worth it.

Steal a Few Sexy Moments

Dinner at Aunt Shirley’s with 18 of your (geographically) closest family members may not inspire a quickie in the laundry room, but you can still make an effort to eroticize your relationship over the holidays. A sweet kiss beneath the mistletoe or thirty seconds of making out in the spare bedroom will help to remind you of the powerful connection you share. Even a stolen glance from across the room or a whispered “I love you” during your uncle’s rambling toast can help to cultivate this connection through the holiday season and beyond.