May 25, 2017
Your Guide to G-Spots & Squirting
This week’s episode is a wet one! Jess shares the science of G-Spots & squirting along with techniques you can try tonight. She answers common questions including: Can all women squirt? Is the G-Spot a real thing? Is female ejaculate pee? How can I get my partner to squirt? What is the Vagus nerve?
If you’d rather read about the G-Spot and Squirting, check out some summary notes from The New Sex Bible below:
This sensitive area accessible through the upper wall of the vagina (toward the stomach) has enjoyed its share of controversy over the years. Dr. Beverly Whipple named the G-Spot after Dr. Ernst Grafenberg, M.D., who previously described it as a “distinct erotogenic zone” on the anterior vaginal wall along the urethra that responds to sexual stimulation. The G-Spot is an area marked by many sensitive nerve pathways, tissues and organs, but it is not a distinct entity, nor is it located inside of the vagina; Dr. Whipple clarifies that it can be felt through the vagina and when stimulated, the tissue begins to swell. As opposed to being a singular organ, it is believed that its sensitivity is connected to corollary stimulation of the female prostate (previously referred to as Skene’s glands), urethral sponge and inner clitoris.
Remember that the G-Spot isn’t a distinct organ, but an area of the body that is associated with the release of fluids. Each woman’s experience with the G-Spot is unique and the degree of pleasure associated with this sensitive area can vary according to a number of factors including arousal levels and monthly cycle. I’ve heard women describe G-Spot stimulation as irritating, weird, neutral, tickling, euphoric, sensational and unbelievably titillating. The bottom line is that there is no right way to experience pleasure and no two bodies respond in the exact same way.
Sex Tip From The Pros
Though squirting isn’t a sideshow trick and not every woman will experience the same degree of ejaculation, you can encourage fluid expulsion by bearing down with your PC muscles. As you approach orgasm, take a few deep breaths as you “push out” with the muscles around your vagina. Relax and allow your body to respond naturally resting assured that the amount of liquid is not necessarily commensurate with your experience of pleasure.
There seems to be a great deal of misinformation floating around about female ejaculation, but the expulsion of fluid from the urethra is a fairly well-documented phenomenon. Not only do early sexual texts including the Kama Sutra reference women’s ability to expel fluid during sex, but the latest research reveals that the skene’s glands, which are a part of the G-Spot and drain into the urethra, are homologous to the prostate gland in men. G-Spot ejaculation, like prostate ejaculation, is a sexually-induced reaction that may or may not coincide with orgasm.
Mainstream porn may tout this “spraying” sensation as some sort of a sideshow trick, but in reality, the fluid expelled is usually less than a teaspoon in volume and doesn’t usually squirt across the room. Some women and their lovers are concerned that the fluid they discharge is urine, however, studies confirm that its contents are similar to male prostatic fluid. It has been found to contain prostatic-specific antigen, prostatic acid phosphatase, urea, creatinine, glucose and fructose. Some describe it as sweet tasting and others say that the taste is rather subdued.
The concern with regard to urinating during sex can sometimes inhibit our sexual response and limit women’s experiences of pleasure with the G-Spot and ejaculation. The skene’s glands are embedded in the spongey tissue that surrounds the urethra between the vagina and the bladder. It is therefore common for women to feel as though they have to pee when the G-Spot is stimulated through the vagina or the abdominal wall. Many of us tense up, contract our pelvic floor muscles or cease stimulation altogether in reaction to this sensation warding off orgasm entirely. While it is possible for ejaculate to contain some traces of pee, emptying your bladder before sex play can help to alleviate this concern. In the event that you do release a small amount of urine due to pressure on your bladder and urethral sponge, rest assured that this fluid is also harmless and like ejaculation, it often goes unnoticed during sex.
For some, ejaculation can be intensely pleasurable and evident, while for others their experience may range from discomfort to indifference. For other women, ejaculation can go entirely unnoticed during sexual intercourse. Each of these experiences is normal and healthy. Our bodies are unique and just as each person reacts differently to the foods we consume, we also respond uniquely to sexual stimuli and touch. If you want to experiment with ejaculation, try it on your own first to help reduce the pressure of performance and embrace your own reaction without focusing on any particular goal:
- Get yourself all riled up in a manner that is familiar and effective.
- Sit back against the headboard with your legs bent and your feet flat on the mattress.
- Curl a finger into your vagina and pull up toward the wall of your stomach. Press into the upper wall as you feel the tissue begin to swell.
- As you become more aroused, continue to curl your finger on the inside while you press down on your bladder through the outside of your stomach. This dual stimulation provides a light squeezing sensation against the G-Spot by internal and external means.
- If you feel as though your muscles are inclined to bear down or push out as though you’re forcing air out of your vagina, exaggerate the feeling and release your pelvic floor muscles.
- Breathe deeply and increase the pressure against your G-Spot from both sides.
- Embrace your body’s reactions and don’t focus on ejaculating. If it happens, that’s great! And if not, bring yourself to orgasm however you fancy.
From the book of Trina:
“When I drip and come at the same time, I go bananas. I bite. I scream. Tom says my face contorts in a way like no other.” Trina, Age 45.
From the book of Lorna:
“My friends all want to learn how to spray. I’m the opposite. I wish it would stop. It feel alright, but it makes such a mess. It’s honestly not worth the hassle because it’s no better than a dryer orgasm.” Lauren, Age 33.
Dr. Jess Says…
Female ejaculation is not a sign of femininity or sexual responsiveness. Similarly, a wetter reaction does not necessarily indicate a more enjoyable experience or greater skills as a lover. Our culture is patently competitive, but sex shouldn’t be a competition. If your neighbors, friends or co-workers make you feel as though you are missing out on a sexual masterpiece, ignore them. Research shows that bragging about sex may trigger the same brain reactions as having sex, so perhaps they’re overcompensating…
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