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January 23, 2013

Men Share Their Biggest Sexual Turn-Offs

Sexual Turn-offs

Living Through Social Media

The ability to be present is not only key to healthy, happy relationships, but also to our sex and intimate lives. Technology now presents more distractions than ever before and daters are getting fed up with having to compete with the lure of our hand-held devices.

“If she tweets all through the meal, it’s as though her 200 followers are on the date with us,” says 34 year-old dater Jose. “It’s weird and it’s rude. If she’s that distracted at dinner, I can’t imagine what she’ll be like in bed.”

As a sexologist, I agree. As an avid social media user, I admit that I am guilty of sometimes splitting intimate meals between my husband and my Twitter and Instagram followers, but it has to stop. Not only is it rude, but it is a bad habit that can easily be carried over into the bedroom. In fact, studies have revealed that posting to social media during sex is becoming more common as the lines between reality and social media continue to blur.

Poor Hygiene

Apparently weekly showers and brushing your teeth every second day just won’t cut it for the discerning men of the twenty-first century. Bad hygiene tops the list of sexual turn-offs with men complaining of bad breath, spiky stubble and day-old cigarette smoke odour.

You don’t have to shave it all off or scrub your skin until it glistens (ouch!), but it is good practice to pay some attention to your hygiene and grooming habits once you’re in a long term relationship. Think back to your early dates and the effort you put into feeling sexy and see if you can replicate a few of those rituals

Ex talk

Whether you’ve decided to remain friends or battle it out as arch enemies, your new man likely has little interest in hearing about the ones from your past. You do not need to avoid the topic of your ex entirely, but focusing on him as a common topic of conversation can be a real mood-killer for both of you.

Dating expert and Ask-A-Man columnist, Gary Wilson, says that ex-talk inevitably hinders sexual attraction. “When it comes to her ex, we simply don’t care. We just don’t want to know,” Wilson explains. “As soon as she brings him up, we become competitive and we start to wonder how we measure up. It may not have worked out, but we still have some lingering questions in the backs of our heads.” The associated feelings of insecurity obviously don’t put anyone in the mood for hot sex. Just as your sex drive increases alongside your confidence level, so too does the male libido.
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