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January 31, 2013

5 Reasons Porn Can Be Good For Your Marriage

5 Reasons Porn Can Be Good For Your Marriage

Porn may forever be connected to a number of social evils including marriage breakdown, sex addiction and the objectification of women, but there are upsides to consuming porn alone or as a couple.

In fact, experts and couples alike acknowledge that watching sexy videos together can have a positive impact on their sex lives. Several studies have even found that duos who consume pornography report higher levels of sexual knowledge and improved sexual satisfaction. And while mainstream porn offers little educational value (they’re actors and sexual superstars after all), it certainly inspires exploration, provides titillation and may even open the lines of communication in and out of the bedroom…

Check out the ways in which porn may have a positive impact on your relationship:
Porn can help put you in the mood.

After a long day at work followed by a “nightcap” of meal preparation, laundry and a frustratingly drawn-out bath and bedtime routine, sex is often the last thing on our weary minds. No matter how hard we try or how strong our attraction to our partner may be, sometimes we are just too tired, distracted and stressed to get our heads into the erotic game. This is where some decent erotica (stories or videos) can come in handy to offer a brief escape that can leave us with the perfect dose of satisfaction and release to lull our bodies into a restful sleep.

Getting in the mood for sex is often the hardest part and there is nothing wrong with using porn as an aid to do facilitate the process. In fact, nearly half of happily married couples report sharing this healthy habit and research suggeststhat they report higher levels of commitment and intimacy. So don’t feel guilty if you want to watch a saucy flick or read a naughty novel before bed. It is not a reflection of a lack of intimacy or attraction, but simply an acknowledgment that sometimes we need a degree of escapism to separate our erotic lives from our everyday routine.

Porn can inspire you to explore your own fantasies.

Thanks to the rise of amateur porn and the accessibility of hand-held technology, anyone can make a porno click and almost everyone seems to be giving it a try. The upshot of this shift from the studio to the bedroom is that there is now a movie for every possible taste and scenario.

Peanut butter and gel pens? Rockstars and roller skates? Whiney men and cheesy socks? Porn has you covered! From whips, ropes and chains to romance, affairs and seduction, erotic movies now offer an endless range of inspirational fantasies. As you watch them alone or with a partner, erotic videos can help you to acknowledge your limitations, identify your turn-offs and explore the turn-ons that you never knew you had!

Porn is creating new roles for men and women.

If you’ve never heard of feminist porn, you may be missing out! Feminist porn is taking the world by storm as it broadens the boundaries of sexuality and creates new sexual roles for both men and women.

Carlyle Jansen, founder of the Feminist Porn Awards, explains why so many men and women are exploring feminist porn:

“Feminist Porn features genuine pleasure, agency and desire for all performers, especially women. This may include depicting a diversity of fantasies, types of people, body types and sizes, and sexual practices. Many films are also now showing interviews with the performers so that you can hear directly what they desire, and watch how their desires unfold.

And of course it must be hot! A lot of folks think that feminist porn must be no power imbalance, and only soft sweet kissing and gentle sex. Feminists want all kinds of sex from soft to edgy.”

This new genre of porn emphasizes both male and female pleasure and offers viewers a glimpse into the bedrooms of real people experiencing real sex. Jansen and her staff at Good for Her can help make personalized recommendations for singles and couples interested in exploring the world of erotica.

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