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Sex with Dr. Jess


May 25, 2011

You don’t have to want sex!


Sex is Healthy. But it’s also healthy to not experience sexual attraction.

In my business, we talk a lot about being sex-positive. This means that we see sex as a natural, healthy part of human life and that we’re open to a range of interests, tastes, desires and behaviours. We try not to judge others based on their unique sexual inclinations and we believe in sexual rights — including the right to accurate information, the right to engage in consensual activities and the right to enjoy sexual fantasies.

But this doesn’t mean that we believe that people ought to engage in sexual activities or that they must have sexual fantasies if these things don’t seem desirable or even natural. Each person’s interest in sex varies over time with age, lifestyle, health, stress, partners, peers and a confluence of other factors. And some people do not experience sexual attraction at all — some research suggests that approximately one percent of the population is asexual. But what does this mean?

As s.e. smith explains in the article below, “Asexuality is not a pathology; it is not the result of trauma, it is not the result of fear or hatred of sex, it is not the result of medications that suppress libido.”

The Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN) explains that asexual people have the same emotional needs as those who are sexual and can form intimate relationships with others who are both sexual and asexual. Some masturbate, while others do not and many fall in love, as emotional and romantic attraction are often separate from sexual attraction. To learn more check out AVEN’s FAQ section or click on the excellent link below…

Click here to read “Life Among the One Percent”.