It depends...
I work with clients who have difficulty having orgasms. Some have never experienced one, others have them infrequently and others used to have them and have since stopped (sometimes due to health issues, trauma or other life changes). Most of these women come to me because they like orgasms (or have been told they'll like them) and want to work on having them. In short, they share the goal of wanting to have orgasms consistently during sex play.
While I'm an avid fan of orgasms and always work to support my clients' goals, I also know that orgasms do not need to be the be-all and end-all of every sexual encounter.
In fact, some people who love sex see orgasm as totally optional.Check outRachel Kramer Bussel's pro-orgasm, but anti-orgasm pressure perspective on the issue:
